Time Wasters

I've been reading into a lot of other SB's blogs, and I was wondering how you guys get to find these great 'Mr. Perfect' SD's. I keep getting all these time wasters, all they want are pictures, more pictures, and more pictures. And Mr. Flirt is just talk, talk, and more talk - I swear he either forgets a lot or is juggling way too many SB's. He mentions the same thing over to me and asks me the same questions. Or like "hey I have my webcam working, maybe you can see if you like me." Um, I've already seen you on webcam??? (And sorry, I don't think i'll like to webcam again///of course I never said that..) But yeah, these guys are big time wasters! I'm not even going to bother with giving over half names because they are a waste of time to even talk to. But mentioning to Mr. Flirt my first trip, he seems to actually want to take me on a trip also, which I am wary about because I don't feel like there is a connection at all. So it probably won't pan out.

So SB's - how did you find that Mr. Perfect? Was it online? And these online sites.. I don't know which ones are good to use and which are not. The only one i'm on is SA, I heard some bad things about SD4Me, so I don't think i'll go on that.

EH?!

Okay, so the SD I visited last weekend keeps telling me how much he misses me. Then he brought up "You should go to school here." I didn't think he was serious or anything, but he says "Any chance you could? You could transfer, I'd pay for tuition, books, food, rent. You wouldn't have to worry about anything except grades."

But I want to graduate from the college i'm at now :/ And just thinking of retaking so many classes because the credits don't transfer over just kills me. That's such a great offer, but I don't think i'm up for it unless its for the school i'm at now.

Edit: After declining, he just said "Maybe I should move there". I'm concerned now, are SD's usually this clingy?

My First Trip

So my first SD trip was last weekend and it was alright. His place was nice and he was overall a nice guy, but nothing really clicked. I was actually looking forward to leaving and get back to work. Why the disappointment? You know how there's the socially awkward guys? Yeah he was one, and he didn't seem to listen to me at all. His concern was just, sex sex sex. So this is big disappointment number two.

I've gotten a lot more messages from SD's (younger ones), nothing planned though. After going through that experience, i'm not sure if i'm looking forward to more or not. I just hope things turn up.

I tried my best and I was, but he surely wasn't trying his best.

Fourth of July Catastrophe

Happy (late) Fourth of July everyone!

Unfortunately, not good news :( Work was HECTIC. I have a lot of patience for a person, either with waiting for something or dealing with something. But today, everyone was pushing my buttons. Not in a nice way. I could say that i'm a pushover, but once things reach a certain point, I am a very not so nice person. I get called bitch many of times by disgruntled people, but I understand that because I am only doing my job. But racism is brought into the fraction, it's just so intolerable. With the first couple of times I heard it, okay heard that been there, mmkay. But damn, hearing it OVER 20 times in a day, it just whittles away what's little that's left of me. Being called names just for being who I am. It really demoralizes me and I still feel like shit. It's not like I asked to be me, if I could have it the way I want, I'd want to be white. So I decided to quit, but since they have the schedule already made, I don't want to be an inconvenience, so i'll probably work my schedule and then be done after that schedule. I worked 10 hours, getting paid minimum wage, so not worth $70 of dealing with that.

Other than that. I am definitely not going to talk to the one SD, he IMs me and once and a while says "hey" or "whats up", but he never gave me what he promised so I refuse to talk to him. What a user.

I don't really talk to Mr. Flirt all that much, all he does is flirt and talk, nothing else and I feel like i'm wasting a lot of time if I just keep on with him.

Mr. BF (he's the only one that seems promising) sent me an iPod Touch and I'm going to go visit him this weekend. That's all I can really look forward to, today really ranked up at #1 on worst day ever.

Please please please give me a better day!
xo

Unsure..

So I've been getting more SD's contacting me, except I want to get to know them more and see if they suit me. One of them gave me their number in the first message and when I replied back via messaging, he refuses to talk anymore unless it is through talk/text on the phone. But I don't feel comfortable giving out my number that quickly without getting to know him before. So I never replied back yet. The other is how he wants to treat me to go to NYC for a weekend, but we never even got to know each other.

Is this normal? I thought communication and boundaries are set then it is furthered into meeting them or contacting them privately via phone. I just want to play it safe, but since I've never done this before, I don't know if this is common.