Any luck on the sugar? Yes. Was it what I expected? No. Perhaps it's in the area I am in, but I don't live in the high-life city of California or L.A. I hear so many SB's that have these great SD's: good looking and spoil them plenty. So I am inexperienced with this sort of arrangement and met my first SD, who is my first mistake (which I will learn from). Never never ever sleep with them on the first meet up - he seemed very trustworthy, he gave me his business card and sounded promising. We agreed on an allowance and how it'll work out, but after that "time", he stopped talking pretty much. And I go back to the SA blog and sought out a comment a SB said: Never sleep with a SD the first time, if you do, you'll probably never hear from them again because that's probably all they wanted. Truth.
Other than that, within a couple days of setting up my profile on SA, I got a message from Mr. BF, I am calling him that because he pretty much wanted me to be his girlfriend than a SB. But I told him my reasons for only wanting to be a SB and he said that was okay too. He lives in a different state, but he's flying me over there in a couple weeks. It sounds like a lot of fun, I don't usually go on vacation to other places and I work a lot during the summer. For me, as a college kid it's hard even going out because work is everything during the summer. I have no life during the summer - work work work! But I made sure i'll get time off so I can go out there and just relax. He sounds super sweet, physical attraction though is not there. But his personality so makes it up. I recall a comment on SA blog, it doesn't just have to be a physical thing. Truth.
Morally, I always believed this was outrageous. But I want to be happy for once. And I always said i'd try everything at least once. So if it doesn't work out after a couple, then i'll be done because I don't want to drag myself into a big hole. A week after, I got a couple more messages from SD's. One is from out of the country (wow..), the other comes into town once and a while, but is married (eh..), and the other is from a different state. So I don't like to judge a book by it's cover, I don't think things like race, age, and gender should be such a big deal. But I think if someone is married, they should be faithful to their partner. I didn't ask, but if the wife knows and is okay with it, then that's a different story. But if she doesn't know about his intentions, then I feel it's morally wrong. SO I sought out the trusty SA blog, and to my disappointment, most SB's prefer married men because they are more careful not to screw things up and are more generous on gifts or something like that. Sure gifts are great, but geez. If I was the wife/girlfriend I would be pissed if I knew. It's just way too unfair. So i'm not going to go with the SA advice on that one.
And on another note, while all this was going on. Putting my life out like that and deciding on this and changing my expectations. I have been under huge stress of family and work ordeals. So, I really need to find a nice SD so I can be under less stress when school starts again. Hopefully, I wish.
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